My Kingdom Versus God’s Kingdom


“My Kingdom vs. God’s Kingdom”

Goal: To help us recognize where personal control and self-rule compete with God’s reign in our lives, and to move toward surrender and trust in God’s Kingdom.


Overview

  • Time: 60–75 minutes
  • Small group Under 20
  • Focus Passage: Matthew 6:33, Luke 9:23–24, Romans 12:1–2
  • Focus: We often try to build our own kingdoms, but Jesus calls us to surrender to His rule — where true freedom and purpose are found.

Part 1: Scripture & Discussion (30–40 min)

1. Icebreaker (5–10 min)

“If you were king or queen for a day, what’s the first thing you’d do?”


2. Scripture:

  • Matthew 6:33 – Seek first the kingdom
  • Luke 9:23–24 – Deny yourself, take up your cross
  • Romans 12:1–2 – Living sacrifice, renewed mind

3. Discussion Questions:

  • In what ways do we try to build our own kingdoms (comfort, status, control, etc.)?
  • What does Jesus mean by “take up your cross daily”?
  • Where is it hardest for you to surrender control to God?
  • What’s one area of life where you sense God asking you to step off the throne?
  • How can seeking His kingdom actually lead to more peace and freedom?

Part 2: Reflection & Response

“Lord, where am I building my kingdom instead of Yours? What does surrender look like this week?”


2. Prayer Time

  • Pray for each other
  • Group prayer: “Lord, Your Kingdom come…”
  • Use a worship song as a time of surrender (like “Build Your Kingdom Here” or “I Surrender”)

Throughout the week:

  • Pray daily: “God, show me where I’m choosing my kingdom over Yours.”
  • Do one intentional act of surrender (could be serving someone else, forgiving, letting go of control, etc.)

  • Week 1: The Clash of Kingdoms
  • Week 2: Control vs. Trust
  • Week 3: Surrender and Freedom
  • Week 4: Living as Citizens of the Kingdom